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			OUR HOUSE: A Very Real Documentary About Kids of Gay and Lesbian Parents

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03/04/2009

What I like about the documentary is that children are given a voice and play a central role throughout. As a gay father myself, I appreciate the opportunity to see how other families cope with their situation, and how their children in particular conceptualise their difference. The way children express themselves is often very honest and it does highlight some of the issues - and joys - of living in a family with two same-sex parents. My daughter is still a toddler. Watching this film raised my awareness and prepared me for some of the questions my daughter may be confronted with in the future, even tough she is being raised by two very loving papas.

02/24/2009

The gay rights conflict is essentially the same thing as the civil rights conflict. Did you know that most churches did not allow black people, just as they do not accept gay people in churches? People believed they were inferior, just as they believe that gay people are. Even if you don't believe that gay rights should be legal, other people do, so you whould let them do whatever they want.

12/09/2008

my name is ceth i am a transman but furthermore i am the president of our counties GAY STRAIGHT ALLIANCE and i am a baby sitter of a child with two moms and a friend of a family made up of two dads one which is trans and they have a baby boy.i have a wonderful girlfriend and we have been together for 2 1/2 wonderful years we have a puppy named ted and he is our only baby for now but we are hoping in the future that we too will be parents and live just as any other couple.

10/08/2006
Michael Morse
Anthem, Arizona

Neither of my parents is gay or lesbian, but my aunt who has been a major part of my life is a lesbian. After I read the first page of submissions I wanted to post a response to some of them. I must disagree with Emilio of Mexico City. I think that this documentary does accomplish something, it helps to educate the public about the realities of homosexuality. This video is in a unique position to help people like Dan (Oxford, England) and Penny (Angier, North Carolina) deal with the problems facing them. The media can reach large audiances that these people as individuals can't. Increasing acceptance is vital to the struggle for gay rights. Also, to the post submitted on 7/25/05 on the first page, catagorizing people as straight, bisexual, gay or lesbian is too simplistic and does nothing to benefit anybody. Peoples sexuality is too complex an issue to define in four catagories. Those groups don't take into account individuals like transexuals. I have a debate coming up and this information has been very helpful. I hope to see my aunts' wedding in the near future.

09/09/2006
Sydne

My Dad moved away from us with his job when I was 12. I believe my Dad is gay. He has never admitted to it, but he has lived w/the same man for 19 years. My Mom finally gave up on him and divorced him in 2002. I do wish he could have been honest w/her, so she could of had another relationship and help in raising us 2 girls. I do hope one day Dad will come out of the closet and talk about things to my sis and I. I do think gays and lesbians are born gay. I get very angry when I hear people say they believe they choose to be that way and think they'll go to hell. If society wasn't so hard on them, they could all be open and have regular lives.

08/16/2006

My dad came out to me over the phone when I was 11 or 12. He hadn't lived with us for years prior to coming out. Its not the fact he was gay that hurts its that he was more of a memory that cropped up every so many years. I have told all of 4 friends about my dad and they amazingly accepted the situation......even my ultra conservative friend. Now he is gone and I have come to notice I never knew the man I called my father. Though some of it has to do with his sexuality.......a lot had to do with his inability to connect with his family. I think heterosexual males face this issue as well. I believe I would have the same questions only slightly altered if my dad had not been gay. I don't think being gay is the issue......its the individuals ability to communicate that is key in parenting. Miscommunication doesn't discriminate........nor does communication.

07/25/2006
emilio
Mexico City

First: I am a gay 34 year old male, living in Mexico City. Let's be honest... Most kids (and adults) never want to think of their parents as sexual creatures. Once, when I was in my 20's, I heard my 50-something parents having sex, and f**k!!... The sounds my mother was making.......... It really made me very uncomfortable. Now, I think that this documentary (as well as most of today's pop culture) focuses too much on sex, and thus puts young kids --especially including the kids featured-- in a position where they MUST think and talk about their sexual (and gay) parents. I saw the film, and I do think the kids felt uncomfortable... They all want the same thing: less trouble from their peers, love, and a bit of privacy. This film accomplishes nothing.

06/03/2006
Dan
Oxford, England

None of my parents are gay or lesbian, but i am 15, and am gay, i think gay and lesbian parents wud be kewl and should be treated no different no normal parents. I still havent come out about my sexuallity cus i think i wont be able to go along in life..

05/06/2006

I am a 12-year-old gay male, and, other than this post, I am sill in the closet. I recently saw Our House on Sundance, and started thinking about what my feelings would be about having homosexual parents. Frankly, I wouldn't mind in the least. I mean, my life would be no different.

02/06/2006
penny
angier nc

i am a lesbian in a 2yr relationship and i have a 14yr old we live in a redneck town we get looks and have been turned down for housing how do i help my daughter with self esteem in these conditions. everyone is telling her she is going to hell because of my relationship their are no groups that i know of for support it is very tiresome

10/05/2005

What I would like to know are the trials and tribulations these families face on a day by day basis.

05/15/2005
Rae
backflip11@netzero.com
nyc

i am 13 i am gay i have been fr like ever people dont understand me (i came out to my school) an alot of people tell me im going to hell but im not because god created me the way i am and i luv god and he loves mei felt like a la=ost soul an outcast but now that i have found god i have found my happyness.

03/29/2005
Lin

Texas

Reading it seems that we all try to justify our lifestyles. I have a 9-year-old son, who was 1st exposed to gays last year; it was our neighbor. He loved to entertain which included other gay men; this is when my son began to ask questions. I remember he told me Rolf might drink bcuz he saw him kiss a boy (neighbor found this funny). I told Johnny that Rolf has difínt life; which is ok. My son loves biker life like his g-father and seen men arrive at Rolfís; he then asked me where their bikes were since all were in leather but not an m-cycle in sight, hmm. I told him to quit being so nosey and that Rolf was gay. He was like ìeweî then replied with ì2 mommies are cool but 2 daddies is just gayî we explained to him that ppl live different lives, he asked what ìweî though, ìwe said we did not agree with the lifestyle but in the end you make your own choicesî he was like ìokî and left it alone. I talked to my neighbor and mentioned my son knew he was gay and told him how I addressed it and also mentioned that I would not elaborate on acceptance which he replied with ìthatís your choice, heís your sonî which is exactly the way I feel.

02/09/2005
Chad
santa monica, ca

This is a message to the religious people who have condemed me to hell because I am gay. When I was 13 years old I tried to commit suicide because my church told me God hated me.After an unsucessful attempt,I decided to explore Gods word. I read the Bible from cover to cover, I now know God loves me and I am not going to hell. Read your Bible again, don't take things out of context. When I think of being in love I am not hating God or turning my back on him, I just want to have another person to share my life with but you will not allow that. God knows whats in my heart and soul. You do not. So stop judging me, its not your job. Being gay is not a choice, not to me anyway. So stop saying it is. Who knows, maybe God wanted it that way. The only thing we want is the same thing you want, A Family. What kind of person would deny someone a family? You do not want us to adopt, yet we have so many children without homes. We would love them no matter what condition they came in, age,race or health. I love GOD, its just some of his followers that tick me off.

02/06/2005
bernadette

Seattle Washington

my partner and i are a lesbian couple we have been together for 15 years now we have 3 children together and we just recently had our thrid child a boy who is now 2 weeks old our oldest boy is 9 and our daughter is 4 Washington state law allows me to adopt the two eldest children which are my partners biological children and the new state laws allow both me and my partner to be registered as parent one and parent two on our new born sons certificate which my partner is also the biological mother of.

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